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Writer's pictureDeidre Dattoli

When Do You Feel Most Alive?

I remember the very first time I felt in control of my life. 


But before we can get to that point I had to go through a part of my life where I felt like I had absolutely no say in the way my life was turning out. I didn’t know what conscious creation was or how my actions could impact my future. 


I was a teenager. 


I had lost my sense of direction and was caught up in the wrong crowd, skipping school, smoking, and disregarding my future. I felt disconnected from my own dreams, and worse, I didn’t think I had the power to change my circumstances.


But the truth is, I did have dreams. I wanted to be a preschool teacher, to nurture young minds and help children grow. Yet, when my grades didn’t align with that ambition and my teachers doubted my abilities, I felt crushed. They told me I’d never make it. At that point, I lost faith in myself and fell into hairdressing almost by default. My mum, sister, cousin, and even my aunt were all hairdressers. It felt like the only path left.


But here’s the thing: the universe has a way of showing us our potential, even when we’re not looking for it.

When I started hairdressing, I wasn’t in love with it, not at first. It felt like something I just had to do to get by. But soon after I started, my salon owner saw something in me that I hadn’t seen in myself. She encouraged me to channel my creativity and allowed me to realise that I could help people look and feel their best. That’s when everything changed.



I found passion. First, it was in the technical artistry of hairdressing, then it became about competitions, and eventually, I discovered that my true calling was in teaching. I had found a new way to create, not just beautiful hairstyles, but the confidence to help others believe in themselves too.


Conscious creation begins when you realise you have the power to shape your own life.

For me, this moment hit when I learned about opportunities to teach other hairdressers by becoming an educator for a product company. The idea of travelling, teaching, and inspiring others ignited a new fire in me. But here’s the catch—none of that would have been possible if I hadn’t shifted my self-concept.


At the time, I still thought of myself as “just a hairdresser.” I carried the weight of my past stories—the rebellious teenager who couldn’t possibly achieve her dreams. But the moment I decided to consciously create a new version of myself, everything shifted. I realised I had control over the narrative I was telling myself. I wasn’t just a hairdresser; I was an educator in the making, a leader who had valuable insights to share.


This conscious shift in my self-concept was more powerful than any technical skill or strategy I could learn. It’s the inner work that makes the external success possible.

I started seeing myself as capable, valuable, and worthy of stepping into this bigger vision of my life. I began preparing for my new role with intention, developing both my hairdressing and presenting skills. By the time the interview came around, I had the courage to say, “Yes, I can do this.” And I did.


I landed the job, travelled across the region, and taught others with passion and confidence. And it was in that moment that I realised something profound: even when no one else believes in you, even when your past is full of doubt and setbacks, you have the power to create the life you want.


You just need to back yourself.


No matter where you’ve come from, no matter how many times you’ve heard the word “no,” you have the ability to consciously create your future. When you embrace your extraordinary, when you work on shifting your inner narrative to match your true potential, there is no limit to what you can achieve.


When have you entered a place of conscious creation in the past? And how do you now need to shift your idea of who you are to help align you better with who you want to be.


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